Celebrating The Love of My Life

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10/8/56 — 3/9/12



Puppy dogs, teddy bears,

flashy socks, zany pj’s,

and authenticity

earned her

endless friendships



A Millsboro, Delaware, resident, she attended Trenton State College after graduating from E. Brunswick (NJ) High School, and later completed a signing program to work with deaf and hearing impaired children. She was particularly proud of her Big Brothers and Big Sisters counseling experience, her guitar playing, needlecraft creations, her nine-years as a bank branch manager and loan officer, and nine years as a wholesale food distributor general manager and company purchasing agent.

But Kathleen Alpiar’s greatest career accomplishments came in her work with her husband, Hal. They were partners in Businessworks, a professional management and marketing solutions firm in NJ, and then TheWriterWorks.com, LLC. professional writing and marketing services (in DE).

With her business functions, Kathy specialized in proofing, and in coordinating and contracting freelance providers –designers, printers, photographers, illustrators, and promotional suppliers– in facilitating client communications and project scheduling, and in financial management.

As a result of Kathy’s organizational efforts to support her husband’s creative skills, the two won a national book award for Doctor Shopping…How to Choose the Right Doctor for You and Your Family, plus numerous other book awards and national marketing awards for client projects.

She contributed to hundreds of healthcare development projects, and spearheaded managerial coordination for the successful plan and launch of the Pennsylvania Heart Institute; BioMotion of America (3-D motion analysis for physical therapy); Rubberecycle (recycled tire rubber particles for play, sports, and horse training surfaces); Orthopedic Patient Partnerships and Backpackers Spine Health & Strength Training programs (and others) for NJ medical centers.

Her business and personal travels took her to over twenty-five states with numerous visits to Ireland, England, Mexico, Costa Rica, Belize, Dominican Republic, Canada, Curacao, Bonaire, Antigua, St. Bart’s, St. Thomas, and St. Maartin. She liked the West Coast of Ireland best.

Kathy’s favorite pastimes though, featured day trips from home –in both Delaware and New Jersey—to take bayfront and oceanfront beach walks with Hal and her pets. They lived in Brick and Little Egg Harbor, NJ, prior to relocating to Delaware. Kathy collected teddy bears, and small gifts to bring to every host home she visited. She particularly liked doing
word puzzles, and believe it or not, enjoyed cleaning; she was very proud of her home and her housekeeping.

She made frequent appearances at Southern Delaware Olde Tymers Softball League games to cheer on her husband and his teammates (as well as the opposing teams), and enjoyed monthly gatherings of her mother’s active adult community neighbors.

Kathy had a magic way with all animals, but especially dogs, the truest loves of her life  –any and all dogs— especially her childhood family pet, a wire-haired terrier named Thumper, and her own cocker spaniels Rusty, Maddigan, Sam, and Tuckerton… and golden retriever, Barnegat…. all of whom her family believes she is now happily reunited with.

Kathy (or “Kath” as those closest called her) passed away quickly and quietly at 2:58am on March 9, 2012, at the University of Maryland Medical Center in Baltimore, after a year-long illness and two-month-long health struggle.

Born October 8, 1956 in Pittsburgh, she was the daughter of E. Timothy Marshall, deceased, and Marian Marshall, 89, of East Brunswick, NJ. She is also survived by her husband-business partner  of 25 years, Hal Alpiar, Millsboro, DE; her brother Timothy Marshall and his two sons Tim and Chris, and Timothy’s wife Victoria, Metuchen, NJ; her sister Lynne Polodna and husband David and their two daughters Emy and Leigh, La Crosse, WI; her brother Bob Marshall and wife Lynne and their two children Matthew and Megara, East Brunswick, NJ; her brother Peter Marshall and wife Claire and their two sons Garrett and Connor, Englishtown, NJ.

Kathy is survived also by her step-children Christopher Alpiar (and his partner Tina Stafford), Atlanta, GA; Melissa Alpiar, Yonkers, NY; and Haley Murphy and Haley’s husband Harrison, and their three children – Kathy’s grandchildren: Talley, Dylan, and Gwyn, Great Falls, VA; her brother-n-law Rick Alpiar and wife Ann Papa Alpiar, and their son Christopher and daughter Casey, New Rochelle, NY; her favorite cousins Danielle Dixon-Moyle and husband Bill, Lake Hopatcong, NJ; and Alex Dixon, Durham, NC; and Danielle and Alex’s mother, Claire, Lake Hopatcong, NJ, and Betty DeGroat, Tampa, FL, and Betty’s son Tad and daughter Stacey; and –last but not least— Kathy’s three dearest friends Melanie Adair, North Plainfield, NJ, Beverly Marsh, Sommerville, NJ, and “Breezy,” her 1½-year-old Cavachon puppy, Millsboro, DE.

A special memorial service led by family friend, Pastor Gary Hayden of the Midway Baptist Church on Rt. 24 in Lewes, DE, is scheduled to take place at 3pm on Saturday, April 14, 2012, at the Wharton’s Bluff Gazebo (pool and dock area) on the Indian River, adjacent to Kathy’s townhome in Millsboro. An open house reception will follow. Those interested in attending the service are asked to please bring a folding chair, and plan to park in the less-trafficked areas of the development and walk to the Gazebo.

In the event of inclement weather, the service will be moved to Midway Baptist Church, 21265 John Williams Way (Rt. 24) in Lewes, DE, halfway between downtown Millsboro and Route 1.

Kathy requested that instead of flowers, donations in any amount affordable be made to her favorite charity: the Popcorn Park Zoo, One Humane Way, Forked River, NJ 08731. Please note on the envelope: Attention Renee. And please note inside, that the tax-deductible contribution is for Kathy Alpiar. The Popcorn Park Zoo is a sanctuary for abandoned and handicapped wildlife.  Kathy visited there often and contributed regularly to this nonprofit’s efforts.  # # #

6 comments so far

6 Comments to “Celebrating The Love of My Life”

  1. Angela Currenton 15 Mar 2012 at 7:14 pm

    My deepest condolences go out to you and your family. My heart breaks for you and your family at this difficult time. Warm hugs sent your way.

  2. Beverlyon 16 Mar 2012 at 11:38 am

    Dearest Hal, such a wonderful read. I think the last time I visited the Popcorn Zoo was with Kath! I pray that you are taking care of yourself and resting your mind and body. I miss my friend so much but relieved that she does not have that struggle anymore. Blessings to you Hal for your strength and love. Bev

  3. Hal Alpiaron 18 Mar 2012 at 6:15 pm

    Thank you, Angela. Your comments are very much appreciated. Best as always – Hal

  4. Hal Alpiaron 18 Mar 2012 at 6:17 pm

    Dear Bev – What can I say, except thank you for always being there for Kathy over the years, and now, of course, for me. You are what being a friend is all about. Thank you. Hugs – Hal

  5. Michael & Naomi Infusinoon 14 Apr 2012 at 11:35 pm


    We would like to share how much Kathy meant to us and would like to say how today’s services (Celebration of Kathy’s Life) was such a great way to honor her. We shed tears today but we will never shed the loving memories nor the special place in our hearts, she will always be in. We miss her dearly.
    Naomi & I kept remembering so many loving memories: from the time we came down for a visit and we all stopped for ice cream, Kathy just had to get Tuckerton & Barnegat their own small ice cream cone, I miss Kathy’s “CALL ME NOW” (subject only) emails, getting me to call back faster than your voicemail :), I greatly appreciate all the times Kathy made dinner while I was working on your computers and you guys kept trying to make me stop for a food break down in Brick…and so many more! She always wanted to make sure I was doing great no matter how “nosey” and had such a large, caring heart. I miss her greatly!!! And promise to always CELEBRATE HER LIFE. (Love you Kathy!)

    We would like to remind you we are always here for you – even it is for a quick hello.

  6. Hal Alpiaron 15 Apr 2012 at 4:18 pm

    Thank you both, Michael and Naomi – Kathy always thought the world of you, and you have underscored why with your comments here. I very much appreciated that you both came all the way here for yesterday’s service. It would have made her proud. You are the best. I am so looking forward to your next visit. Please be sure to let me know a defibnite date ASAP. Thanks again. Best always – Hal

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