Oct 07 2010


The right words


at the right time.

When you use ’em and you mean ’em 

AND you act on ’em, you got leadership!


You came here looking for something new in leadership? There’s nothing new. There are probably a thousand different management leadership theories. They all have different subtle twists and focal points, but they all say the same thing.

Jumbled together, we have Theory X, Theory Y, Theory Z, MBWA, Maslow’s Hierarchy, Weber’s Transformational Leadership, Goldman’s Trait Theory, Hersey and Blanchard’s Situational Leadership, Fiedler and Garcia’s Cognitive Resource Theory, and the works of Lewin, McClelland, Blake, Mouton, Skinner, even Carlyle in 1841 and in Plato’s Republic…plus many hundreds of others

There seem to be as many different ways of

slicing up leadership as there are followers.

Personally, I am hard-pressed to come up with any better guidelines than Eric Berne’s Transactional Analysis as a practical guideline for leadership communications, Maslow’s Hierarchy, as a realistic guideline for leadership motivation , and Rudy Giuliani’s book Leadership, as an example of outstanding leadership action and conduct.   

The problem is that business owners and operators and managers keep trying to stay on top of all the latest management leadership developments, revelations, steps, methods, and approaches. A lot of time (plus energy and money) can be expended on this pursuit.

Are you constantly on the lookout for management leadership solution advice and information in business journal and news publications?

In media-based success stories?

Are you participating in one webinar and seminar and blogcast after another?

Are you taking endless courses and management leadership training programs?

Do you find yourself surfing Internet information sources instead of spending time with family?

That’s a problem? Absolutely. Not just by-passing family, which is definitely not a life-productive avenue, but the fact that too many businesspeople don’t accept these information options as the refreshers and boosters that they are. They instead view each exposure as THE answer to their dreams, as THE solution to their problems when –in fact– none of these theories are that.

It’s one thing to get reminded of leadership stuff you once knew and forgot, or to learn a new app for an old method, but to cling to some new theory with the expectation that “leadership” is now just an arm’s distance away, is evidence of a fantasyland mindset. And true leaders are grounded in reality, and focused on the here and now present..

What’s new is simply the attitude you bring to bear on your leadership responsibilities, the words and emphasis you choose to use to inspire and motivate yourself and others, and the action steps you take to deliver the goods!

If you’re thinking there’s more to it that, there’s not. You don’t need a PhD in leadership to produce consistent results. You need only to fine-tune your personal strengths. And you can only know what they are by studying yourself. Oh, and one or two semesters of BASIC YOU and ADVANCED YOU won’t cut it. Figuring you out is a DAILY, LIFETIME commitment you must make to your self.

Are you ready?

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Aug 08 2009


So you had bad toilet training


as a child. So what?


     Imagine what this world would be like  without hidden agendas. Okay, maybe you can’t change the world. Imagine what your business would be like without hidden agendas? Your life?

“Man is not totally at the mercy of either his heredity or his environment, He can modify both.” It starts with increasing “a person’s awareness of the real power he has to direct his own life, to make decisions, to develop his own ethical system, to enhance the lives of others, and to understand that he was born to win.” 

Excerpts from the Preface of BORN TO WIN by Muriel James and Dorothy Jongeward

     Here’s the deal:  Psychological “game-playing” (often unconsciously provoked) has been defined by psychology icons Dr. Eric Berne and Dr. Frederick Perls as a series of transactions or communication exchanges (often repetitive) with a hidden motive or agenda.

     These “game” exchanges,  which may seem innocent and perfectly rational on the surface, can have extremely destructive mental and emotional consequences. “They prevent honest, intimate and open relationships” at home and on the job, say author/therapists James and Jongeward.

     They go on  to point out that we “wear many masks and have many forms of armor” that keep our true selves confined and unknown, even to ourselves. The possibility of encountering our own reality–learning about ourselves– can be “frightening and frustrating.”

     Many of us,  say James and Jongeward, “expect to discover the worst” when we set out on a path of self-exploration, “and a hidden fear lies in the fact that we may also discover the best.”

     To discover the worst  means we must “face the decision of whether or not to continue in the same patterns” of behavior, they say, and “To learn the best is to face the decision of whether or not to live up to it.”

     Because either discovery  may involve change, it is anxiety-provoking, which can be good or bad, depending on how we use the information and exercise the change.

     It all comes down to  making a conscious choice to learn more about what makes you tick so you can minimize game-playing, recognize it in others and not play, be better able to generally run a healthier more productive business… and experience a healthier and happier personal life in the process.

     What have you got to lose?  Finding out you had bad toilet training when you were three years-old? So what? Choose to make the reality of your present moment your focus, and watch the joy that comes to the surface, and stays! 

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