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		<title>BUSINESS BUSYNESS</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Sep 2010 01:06:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Hal Alpiar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;I&#8217;m too busy for you!&#8221;
(Translated: I&#8217;ll never be a leader because I don&#8217;t really care about anybody else!)
 
Is &#8220;I&#8217;m too busy for you!&#8221; the verbal or nonverbal message you might be putting out to others?
I just read a promotional endorsement written by someone I know who, years ago, I used to respect. He starts out his explanation of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><em>&#8220;I&#8217;m too busy for you!&#8221;</em></span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><em>(Translated: I&#8217;ll never be a leader because I don&#8217;t really care about anybody else!)</em></h6>
<p> </p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><strong>Is &#8220;I&#8217;m too busy for you!&#8221;</strong> the verbal or nonverbal message you might be putting out to others?</p>
<p><strong>I just read </strong>a promotional endorsement written by someone I know who, years ago, I used to respect. He starts out his explanation of why the particular newsletter he raves about is one of a very few that he actually makes time to read. He opens his statement by saying:</p>
<h6>                                                                              </h6>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><em>&#8220;I&#8217;m busy &#8212; painfully busy, so </em></span></h2>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><em>I&#8217;m stingy with my time&#8230;&#8221;</em> </span></h2>
<h6>                                                               </h6>
<p><strong><em>Pull-eease!</em></strong> Who cares? The source, though, may want to know that comments like this scream of the kind of personal frustration known to have led many to depression and isolation.</p>
<p><strong>It would be viewed</strong> by not a few psychology professionals as the monolithic signature of an individual who has deep fears of experiencing any forms of intimacy with others.</p>
<p><strong>&#8220;Intimacy,&#8221;</strong>defined by ground-breaking Gestalt Psychology authors James and Jongeward, &#8220;is free of games and free of exploitation. It occurs in those rare moments of human contact that arouse feelings of tenderness, empathy&#8230;genuine caring&#8230;and affection.&#8221; </p>
<p><strong>Businesspeople</strong> are not immune to these kinds of connections and cannot hide behind &#8220;business&#8221; as if it were a protective shield. But many don&#8217;t know that they&#8217;re doing it. It may be going on for so long, that it feels natural to be a &#8220;workaholic.&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>Some may say,</strong> why interrupt my career mission to get close enough to someone who will want me to pat their hand when they have a crisis? Dealing with other people&#8217;s crises slows me down and forces me to sidetrack.</p>
<h6>                                                                          </h6>
<blockquote>
<h3><span style="color: #800000;">Much has been written in the literature of Gestalt and Reality Therapy about those who play the <em>&#8220;Harried Executive&#8221;</em> game in life and business. </span></h3>
<h3><span style="color: #800000;">These are people who define themselves as &#8220;overwhelmed&#8221; and &#8220;overloaded&#8221; and &#8220;swamped&#8221; and &#8220;up to my ears&#8230;&#8221; </span></h3>
<h3><span style="color: #800000;">They make themselves too busy to have to spend any genuine quality time relating to others. </span></h3>
</blockquote>
<h6>                                                                          </h6>
<p><strong>This is not a healthy mindset</strong>, but it is often masked by offering token attentions and participating in general socializing. It frequently requires professional counseling and coaching to move this type of behavior beyond the personal relationship barricade the person has set up for her or himself.</p>
<p><strong>That you might be conveying</strong> to others that you are too busy for them, means you are close to the edge of the abyss that forecloses on many of life&#8217;s most valuable opportunities.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>&#8220;I&#8217;m too busy&#8221; type statements can also be taken by many to mean:</strong></p>
<h6>                                                                       </h6>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><em>&#8220;You&#8217;re worthless to me; get out of my way!&#8221; </em></span></h2>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>(Can there be any more insulting an attitude to communicate?) </strong></p>
<h6>                                                                              </h6>
<p><strong>Can you, </strong>or anyone who works with you, actually afford to practice being too busy, never mind flaunting it as in the above example?</p>
<p><strong>Time is our most precious and cherished commodity</strong>. Of course we need air and water and food and clothing and shelter, but time is what drives those needs.</p>
<h6>                                                                      </h6>
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<h3><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>One of your grandparents </strong>no doubt once told you that &#8220;Time and tide wait for no man&#8221; (a statement that predates modern English and whose authorship is ascribed to St. Marher in 1225) and that &#8220;No man is an island&#8221; (attributed to the Englishman who was proclaimed the greatest of all metaphysical poets, John Donne, 1572-1631). </span></h3>
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<h6>                                                                  </h6>
<p><strong>Surely you&#8217;ve heard</strong> those statements somewhere? Maybe they are worthy of re-considering from time to time.</p>
<p><strong>What kinds of nonverbal &#8220;I&#8217;m too busy&#8221; messages could you be sending out? </strong>Arms and/or legs crossed defensively in meetings? Parentally looking over the tops of your glasses at other&#8217;s suggestions that seem too time-consuming?</p>
<p><strong>You keep checking your watch</strong>, the clock on the wall? You keep checking for text messages? You keep reading emails while someone is speaking with you? Do you walk ahead of others you&#8217;re speaking with, or shoulder to shoulder?</p>
<p><strong>Do you pick up</strong> the phone and dial when someone approaches you? Do you put off invitations to family gatherings and neighborhood events, or show up to smile and handshake a few people and then slide out the side door when others seem preoccupied?</p>
<h6>                                                                    </h6>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #800000;">You may want to listen to yourself more . . . and  </span></strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #800000;">check out that great smile of yours in the mirror once in awhile!</span></strong></p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.twwsells.com/"><span style="color: #0000ff;">www.TWWsells.com</span></a> or 302.933.0116 or <a href="mailto:Hal@TheWriterWorks.com"><span style="color: #0000ff;">Hal@BusinessWorks.US</span></a><span style="color: #0000ff;">  </span></p>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You.</span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"> <span style="color: #0000ff;"><em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone</span><span style="color: #800000;">!</span></h5>
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		<title>LABOR DAY</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Sep 2010 00:15:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Hal Alpiar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Not all work is labor.
                                   
Not all labor is work.
                                            
(A short post for bosses to copy and leave anonymously at certain workstations)
                                               
Is it true that some of us are lucky enough to be working for pleasure as well as pay, and that some of us labor for love alone? 
If you fit either of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Not all work is labor.</span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                   </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Not all labor is work.</span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                            </span></h6>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><em><span style="color: #0000ff;">(A short post for bosses to copy and leave anonymously at certain workstations)</span></em></span></h6>
<h2>                                               </h2>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Is it true</strong> that some of us are lucky enough to be working for pleasure as well as pay, and that some of us labor for love alone? </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>If you fit either of these categories</strong>, like keeping your eye on the ball when you&#8217;ve got a beer in one hand and popcorn in the other, or finding out that your closest relatives are all in jail, it&#8217;s sometimes hard to realize that the vast majority of workers reportedly hate their jobs. </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Certainly more people could be happy at work</strong>, don&#8217;t you think? It doesn&#8217;t take a teenage Blackberry txtmsg scientist to recognize that those who are miserable with their jobs need only make the choice to click the channel in their brains to another station, and refuse to choose to get themselves &#8220;downed-out&#8221; about the tasks at hand. Check your misery level:<span style="color: #0000ff;"> </span><a href="http://bit.ly/bdNJxb"><span style="color: #0000ff;">http://bit.ly/bdNJxb</span></a></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Motivational guru Zig Ziglar</strong> always used to point out that when you have a job &#8211;<em>any</em> job&#8211; odds are pretty good that you also are getting paid for your time and effort, that you likely have some kind of benefits, that you can usually count on heat or air conditioning and a roof over your head, that you get lunch time off and possibly a coffee break or two, that you can usually socialize a bit with others, and that you get some kind of recognition for exceptional performance. Well?</span></p>
<h6><span style="color: #000000;">                                                                                                                      </span></h6>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">So, what&#8217;s the bottom line?</span></h2>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                                    </span></h6>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>If you think</strong> your job is strictly labor, think again. Could it be that you are perhaps choosing to see it that way? If you&#8217;re bored or fed up with work that is no longer challenging, have you brought that to any one&#8217;s attention? </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Does your boss</strong> know that you are on cruise control? Does you boss know that you are capable of more responsibility? Speak up woman! (or man!) Take the risk to say how you feel. </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>What&#8217;s the worst that can happen?</strong> Do you think any boss in the world would fire you for asking for more responsibility or a more challenging workload? It&#8217;s not going to happen. Get the thought out of your head. </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Choose instead</strong> to see that a request like this will light a fire of awareness under your boss and prompt you to earn the consideration you deserve. Don&#8217;t package your request with a pricetag!</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>As much as business owners love </strong>hearing employee requests for added responsibility, they hate hearing requests for more money. Let the compensation issue go with the flow. </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Present your ideas</strong> for how and why you can and should be allowed to do a better, more productive job . . . and leave the salary/benefit issues up to the boss. Your performance will get you recognition and added pay. In case it doesn&#8217;t, consider connecting with my friend Angela Current, professional resume writer and career and interview coach at <a href="http://www.classicresumes.com"><span style="color: #0000ff;">www.classicresumes.com</span></a> for help!</span></p>
<h6><span style="color: #000000;">                                                                                                </span></h6>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><em>Performance goes MUCH further than bitching. </em></span></h2>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><em>Choose to perform. Watch what happens!   </em></span></h2>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"> </span></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.twwsells.com/"><span style="color: #0000ff;">www.TWWsells.com</span></a> or 302.933.0116 or <a href="mailto:Hal@TheWriterWorks.com"><span style="color: #0000ff;">Hal@BusinessWorks.US</span></a>  </p>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You.</span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"> <em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone!</span></h5>
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		<title>Teenage Trooper</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Sep 2010 19:07:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Hal Alpiar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;BARNEGAT GIRL&#8221; 
10/15/97 &#8211; 9/1/10   R.I.P.

 


&#8220;The BEST Golden Retriever Girl In The Whole World&#8221;


                                              
We are in deep sadness for having lost a dear family member and great friend and companion today.
It&#8217;s never a good time for letting go. This is especially true for the one who&#8217;s been the loyalest, sweetest, and most fun-loving guardian of our [...]]]></description>
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<h2 class="mceTemp mceIEcenter" style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><span style="color: #000000;">10/15/97 &#8211; 9/1/10   R.I.P.</span></span></h2>
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<dt class="wp-caption-dt"><a href="http://www.halalpiar.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/Christmas-1st-use-of-camera-019.jpg"><img class="size-medium wp-image-4660" title="Christmas - 1st use of camera 019" src="http://www.halalpiar.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/Christmas-1st-use-of-camera-019-300x225.jpg" alt="Barnegat Girl 10/15/97-9/1/10 R.I.P." width="300" height="225" /></a></dt>
<dd class="wp-caption-dd">&#8220;The BEST Golden Retriever Girl In The Whole World&#8221;</dd>
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<h6 style="text-align: center;">                                              </h6>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">We are in deep sadness for having lost a dear family member and great friend and companion today.</h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">It&#8217;s never a good time for letting go. This is especially true for the one who&#8217;s been the loyalest, sweetest, and most fun-loving guardian of our lives for 13 years. But today, Barnegat was called to a higher place. Her body simply couldn&#8217;t survive her permanent puppy mindset any longer.</h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">She was a trooper through and through. No animal on earth could possibly have had more heart than Barnegat Girl. She protected. She inspired. She mended fences. She stood tall in troubled waters. Her smile was real and contagious.</h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">She loved the cold weather and making &#8220;dog-angel&#8221; imprints in the snow. When we brought her home, it was in one hand; she was the size of a football. Today, as she left us, her 95 pounds of upbeat spirit will live on.</h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">Barnegat had taken us through three moves to three different homes in two different states and she outlived two wonderful male cocker spaniels &#8220;Sam&#8221; and &#8220;Tuckerton&#8221; who each thought she was their big sister.</h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">Barnegat loved chasing baseballs and tennis balls and swimming in the ocean &#8211;even in the winter ice and snow.</h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">She bounded at the slightest beckoning. And would rise to any occasion regardless of the circumstances.</h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">The proof of her disposition was proven by hundreds of tugging, pulling children over the years that she would reward with licks again and again. </h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">Her travels took her to the mountains and the ocean coasts of Maine, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Connecticut, Rhode Island, New York, New Jersey, Maryland, Virginia, and the mountains of Vermont, North Carolina, West Virginia, and Pennsylvania, plus the coast and farmlands of Delaware . . . and &#8211;of course&#8211; untold lakes, rivers, streams, lagoons, and creeks all along the way. </h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">Yes, she was a &#8220;privileged child,&#8221; but never failed to earn her keep, or be loving and attentive to all who entered her life.</h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">God Bless You, Barnegat Girl, and thank you for 13 years of unsolicited love and trust and the kind of friendship that all on Earth should strive to equal.</h3>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">It&#8217;s lonesome under my desk . . . but YOU, sweet girl, will never be forgotten.    </h3>
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<p style="text-align: center;"> <a href="http://www.twwsells.com/"><span style="color: #0000ff;">www.TWWsells.com</span></a> or 302.933.0116 or <a href="mailto:Hal@TheWriterWorks.com"><span style="color: #0000ff;">Hal@BusinessWorks.US</span></a>  </p>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You.</span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"> <em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone!</span></h5>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Sep 2010 00:48:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Hal Alpiar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Feuding Families, 
                          
Combative Couples,
                                    
Peeved Partners  and
                                        
Belligerent Boards
                                             
Constant arguing, bitter and mean-spirited discussions, &#8220;business infidelity,&#8221; resentment, continuous bickering and back-biting, breaking trust and undermining confidences, changing changes.
. . . I want out and it&#8217;s time to go! 
                                                                              

Or, as the renown Scottish farmer/poet Robert Burns&#8217; prophesied in 1786 with his &#8220;Ode To A Wee [...]]]></description>
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<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                          </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Combative Couples,</span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                    </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Peeved Partners  and</span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                        </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Belligerent Boards</span></h1>
<p>                                             </p>
<h3 style="text-align: center;">Constant arguing, bitter and mean-spirited discussions, &#8220;business infidelity,&#8221; resentment, continuous bickering and back-biting, breaking trust and undermining confidences, changing changes.</h3>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><em>. . . I want out and it&#8217;s time to go! </em></h2>
<h6>                                                                              </h6>
<blockquote>
<h3><span style="color: #800000;"><em><strong>Or, as the renown Scottish farmer/poet </strong>Robert Burns&#8217; prophesied in 1786 with his &#8220;Ode To A Wee Mouse&#8221; in what may be the world&#8217;s most quoted and paraphrased bits of advice: &#8220;The best-laid schemes o&#8217; mice an&#8217; men gang aft agley.&#8221; (often go awry, or wrong)   </em></span></h3>
<h6><span style="color: #800000;"><em>                                                         </em></span></h6>
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<p><strong>How can you continue with the financial problems?</strong> The Mission and Vision disagreements? Operational differences? Business expansion and &#8220;parenting&#8221; plans vs. consolidation?</p>
<p><strong>Do your business and business relationships</strong> look increasingly fragile? Are partners distancing themselves? Does collapse seem imminent?</p>
<p><strong>Divorce between married couples</strong> is now in the mainstream of American life, and unfortunately serves to set the table for acceptance at a business level. What else is a business partnership besides a marriage? And family business upheavals can be the worst of all because they frequently involve or contaminate marriage relationships that are the very underpinning of a business structure.   </p>
<p><strong>And those who are caught in the middle typically suffer the most</strong>. In a couple marriage relationship, it&#8217;s the children. In a business partnership it&#8217;s the partner families, employees, employee families, investors, suppliers and vendors and last, but not least, the customers! Nor does the damage line always stop there. In many instances, a neighborhood, community, town, region, industry or profession can also be negatively affected.</p>
<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Ways to patch things up: </span></strong></p>
<p>Start with giving the other person or people involved the benefit of doubt. You got into this relationship because something was extremely positive. By re-focusing on whatever that was, you may find that existing differences can be easily reconciled. Isn&#8217;t it worth a try? Don&#8217;t you have a lot invested in each other? Wouldn&#8217;t it be easier to move the business forward if differences could be worked out than to simply part ways and have to start all over again?    </p>
<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">So here&#8217;s the plan</span>:</strong>                             </p>
<ul>
<li>
<div style="padding-left: 30px;">If you can get past that first step of thinking, sit down and write out on paper with a pen, a statement of agreement to seek to resolve differences. Each principal involved in the dissension climate must be willing to do this.</div>
</li>
<li>
<div style="padding-left: 30px;">Exchange copies of these statements without commenting or responding.</div>
</li>
<li>
<div style="padding-left: 30px;">Plan a follow-up Q&amp;A clarification discussion the next day (no rebuttals permitted) to review one another&#8217;s comments.</div>
</li>
<li>
<div style="padding-left: 30px;">Plan an open discussion of the Q&amp;A clarification discussion a week or so later.                                    </div>
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<li>
<div style="padding-left: 30px;">Next, and again something all involved must be willing to do: write out one sentence on paper that identifies exactly what you identify as the most critical problem.</div>
</li>
<li>
<div style="padding-left: 30px;">Then each needs to write out clear specific improvements desired in the form of a goal statement that is specific, flexible, realistic, and has a due date. </div>
</li>
</ul>
<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Or get professional counseling</span>: </strong></p>
<p><strong>An &#8220;outside&#8221; consultant</strong> who is experienced and skilled in both business management and human relations can help each individual involved put her/his differences in writing, channel productive exchanges, and foster committed attitudes aimed toward working through the differences.</p>
<p><strong>A professional</strong> can help set up a recovery path with a schedule for renewable  efforts, and a contingency exit plan that can serve to strike a balance and encourage renewed efforts to make things work. Many leadership training-based organizations can provide assistance in identifying and retaining qualified coach/counselors.</p>
<p><strong>This is always</strong> a better solution-approach than slamming the door and walking out! And it just might work! </p>
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<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You.</span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"> <em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone!</span></h5>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Aug 2010 22:52:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Hal Alpiar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Do You Hate 
                                   
What You Love?
 

 
That’s not as surprising a thought as you might think. On the spectrum of emotions, “Hate” and “Love” are not at opposite ends. In fact, they are remarkably close to one another. At the extreme opposite end from both of these emotions is “Indifference.” 
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<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                   </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><em>What</em><em> You Love?</em></span></h1>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;"><em> </em></span></h1>
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<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>That’s not</strong> as surprising a thought as you might think. On the spectrum of emotions, “Hate” and “Love” are not at opposite ends. In fact, they are remarkably close to one another. At the extreme opposite end from both of these emotions is “Indifference.” </p>
<p><strong>When a child</strong>, or puppy, or employee seeks <em>positive</em> attention (praise, pats and pets, a bonus), and doesn’t get it, she or he or it will turn around and begin to start seeking <em>negative</em> attention, <em>because even negative attention (a scolding, for example) is better than no attention</em> . . . or indifference! </p>
<p><strong>See, and you thought</strong> all those upstart types were just masochists. Nope, but it is true that those who get to a point of losing all hope for receiving attention of <em>any</em> variety stumble along the edges of depression, and can easily become prime prospects for illness, abandonment, homelessness, addiction, violence, even suicide. </p>
<p><strong>Okay</strong>, so indifference is the worst and arguably most destructive emotion? And love and hate are like cousins or something? Yeah. </p>
<p><strong>Well,</strong> don’t we <em>some</em>times love those we hate and hate those we love? </p>
<p><strong>How about </strong>the jobs we do? The employees we work with? Our clients, customers, patients, vendors, consultants, advisors? Spouses? Children? Siblings? Parents? Hey, let’s face it — it’s the stuff books and movies and TV shows are made of. </p>
<p><strong>But we seldom </strong>stop to think it through, right? The point is <em>EVERY</em>one needs recognition, or “strokes” as the shrinks call it. The challenge in motivating others is trying to figure out what kinds of strokes work best for <em>each </em>of them (See Maslow’s Theory of Hierarchy) <em>at any given moment,</em> and being willing and able to reward each individual in the way(s) that is(are) most meaningful to that person. </p>
<p><strong>A trophy</strong> or plaque or certificate or news release feature doesn’t mean much to someone who’s struggling to pay the rent. A pay raise for a social worker isn’t as much of a motivational factor as a program grant that covers counseling resource expenses. Increased job opportunities are in fact often more sought after by employees than increased benefits.</p>
<p><strong>Indifference</strong> (especially lack of recognition or appreciation) makes hateful people more hateful, and turns those who want to give or seek love headed in other directions. So where does that leave us? As business leaders, Responsibility One is to motivate and teach by example. So . . . </p>
<p><strong>Pack up</strong> your feelings of indifference toward others. Stow them away with your ambivalence in a locked attic trunk. Open, instead, your mind and your heart to accept the weaknesses of others as you would wish them to accept yours. Open minds open doors.</p>
<p><strong>Watch what happens</strong> when you recognize and appreciate that others often say and do what they say and do because they seek your kindness, your pat on their head (or their back, or shoulder, or hand) plus your patience . . . and, of course, your smile. </p>
<h6>                                    </h6>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">That IS a great smile you have, btw.</span></h2>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Pass it on to the next person </span></h2>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">  you see after you read this!</span>  </h2>
<p style="text-align: center;"> </p>
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<h6 style="text-align: center;"> <em>NOTE: This blog article was originally posted two years ago in August, 2008. I have elected to repeat it here today because it touches on some sensitive leadership issues that have surfaced for a number of small business owners I&#8217;ve heard from recently.</em></h6>
<p> </p>
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<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You.</span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"> <em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone!</span></h5>
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		<description><![CDATA[CONNECT THE DOTS . . . 
 
#1.  It has been proven conclusively and repeatedly that job creation is the only pathway to economic recovery, growth and stability.

 Federal statistics released this week demonstrate that U.S. jobless rates continue to rise. The value of the dollar continues to fall.
 None of this matters to you? If you run [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong><em> </em></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #800000;">#1.</span></strong><span style="color: #800000;">  <strong>It has been proven conclusively</strong></span> <em>and repeatedly that job creation is the only pathway to economic recovery, growth and stability.</em></p>
<ul>
<li> Federal statistics released this week demonstrate that U.S. jobless rates continue to rise. The value of the dollar continues to fall.</li>
<li> None of this matters to you? If you run a small business, it should. And what follows may matter even more to you.</li>
</ul>
<p><em> </em><strong><span style="color: #800000;">#2.  America’s entrepreneurs</span></strong> <em>constitute this nation’s “agent of change” talent pool. Entrepreneurial ventures now account for over 30 million small businesses in the U.S.</em></p>
<p> <strong><span style="color: #800000;">#3.  The overwhelming majority</span></strong> <em>of new jobs in the U.S. is — and has always been — created by small business.</em></p>
<p> <strong><span style="color: #800000;">#4.  The federal government</span></strong> <em>– with no business experience at any level — has been giving staggering amounts of cash handouts to big business, which creates virtually no new jobs.</em></p>
<p> <strong><span style="color: #800000;">#5.  <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Federal civil servants</span></span></strong> <em>(which is a nice way of saying “people who haven’t an ounce of entrepreneurial spirit or savvy, and probably haven’t a single innovative hair on their bodies”)</em><span style="text-decoration: underline;"> </span><span style="color: #800000;"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">received an average pay and benefits</span></strong> in 2009 [according to a USA TODAY analysis reported today] <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>of $123,049. The average private sector worker earned $61,051</strong> total</span>.</span></p>
<h6 style="padding-left: 30px;">                                                                    </h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Where’s the incentive?</span></h1>
<h6>                                                </h6>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Misplaced of course.</span> And why would you not look to a federal employment career where you can make twice as much money as you could by working for a private business? You’d have to be crazy!</h2>
<h6>                                                                                                                    </h6>
<p><strong>On the other hand</strong>, maybe you believe in yourself (not a common characteristic among federal employees . . . except for those who hold elective office).</p>
<p> <strong>Maybe you actually believe in the spirit of America</strong>, and don’t care about being disregarded, dismissed and just plain dissed. You think it&#8217;s time to take a stand for small business? <em>You either do or you don&#8217;t.</em></p>
<p><strong>If you don&#8217;t</strong>, you&#8217;re clearly in favor of providing bailouts to corporate giants and gargantuan financial support programs for totally useless federal ventures that – like most federal civil servant position compensation plans – simply drain the economy and put nothing back in. Is that what you went into business for?</p>
<p> <strong>Brain surgery certification</strong> is not a prerequisite for being able to understand that small business represents America’s only viable economic solution, and that continued reckless spending to underwrite federal and corporate pursuits is not the answer.</p>
<p> <strong>It’s a safe bet</strong> that any small business owner could easily and realistically $100 million in totally wasted spending inside of a ten-minute interview. Start with federal employee salaries!</p>
<h6>                                                                             </h6>
<blockquote>
<h1><em><span style="color: #800000;"> <strong>“The average federal </strong></span></em></h1>
<h6><em><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>                                          </strong></span></em></h6>
<h1><em><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>salary”</strong> [according to </span></em></h1>
<h6><em><span style="color: #800000;">                                 </span></em></h6>
<h1><em><span style="color: #800000;">USA TODAY], “has grown </span></em></h1>
<h6><em><span style="color: #800000;">                                  </span></em></h6>
<h1><em><span style="color: #800000;">33 percent faster than </span></em></h1>
<h6><em><span style="color: #800000;">                                       </span></em></h6>
<h1><em><span style="color: #800000;">inflation since 2000 . . . </span></em></h1>
<h6><em><span style="color: #800000;">                                       </span></em></h6>
<h1><em><span style="color: #800000;">and pays an average of 20 </span></em></h1>
<h6><em><span style="color: #800000;">                                               </span></em></h6>
<h1><em><span style="color: #800000;">percent more than private </span></em></h1>
<h6><em><span style="color: #800000;">                                  </span></em></h6>
<h1><em><span style="color: #800000;">firms for comparable </span></em></h1>
<h6><em><span style="color: #800000;">                             </span></em></h6>
<h1><em><span style="color: #800000;">occupations.” </span></em></h1>
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<h6>                                                               </h6>
<p><strong>Federal workers are overpaid. Period.</strong></p>
<p> <strong>Oh, and what are they overpaid WITH?</strong> Tax dollars of course. And how many of those tax dollars come from honest, hard-working, small business entities? Connect the dots.</p>
<p> <strong>Does it frustrate you</strong> to have your business growth and job creation opportunities be constantly limited and handcuffed, be over-regulated and over-taxed by politicians who are supposed to be representing you?</p>
<p> <strong>Does it undermine the very existence of your business</strong> to have to answer to politicians who are not business-minded, have no sense of business, do nothing to stimulate a competitive environment in the marketplace, and just don’t get it?</p>
<h6>                                                                                                    </h6>
<h2 style="padding-left: 30px;"><span style="color: #800000;"> If these situations bother you, there are two important things you can do: </span></h2>
<h6 style="padding-left: 60px;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                                                            </span></h6>
<h2 style="padding-left: 60px;"><span style="color: #800000;"> 1) Put your business into overdrive</span></h2>
<p style="padding-left: 60px;">. . . and develop more innovative and more economical ways to market your products and services, and to attract and reward and appreciate your customers.</p>
<h2 style="padding-left: 60px;"> <span style="color: #800000;">2) Start taking steps on your own behalf</span></h2>
<p style="padding-left: 60px;">. . . and on behalf of restoring this nation’s economy, by working with others in your industry, profession and community to replace those who spend what you earn on initiatives designed to hold you down, so they can spend even more of what you earn.  </p>
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<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You.</span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"> <em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone!</span></h5>
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		<title>KILLING YOUR SELF PRIDE</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 21 Aug 2010 19:31:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Hal Alpiar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;You must be very
                                            
  proud of yourself!&#8221;
                                     
&#8220;No, I own a business 
                                     
and I have a life!&#8221;
                                                                    
Self-pride can, and almost always does, get in the way of progress &#8212; and even survival!
Self-pride. Now isn&#8217;t that like stubbornness? &#8220;Stop being so stubborn,&#8221; my stubborn mother used to say, &#8220;it&#8217;s gonna get you in trouble. People [...]]]></description>
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<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                            </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">  proud of yourself!&#8221;</span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                     </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;">&#8220;No, I own a business </span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                     </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;">and I have a life!&#8221;</span></h1>
<h6>                                                                    </h6>
<p><strong>Self-pride</strong> can, and almost always does, get in the way of progress &#8212; <em>and even survival!</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><strong>Self-pride.</strong> Now isn&#8217;t that like stubbornness? <em>&#8220;Stop being so stubborn,&#8221;</em> my stubborn mother used to say, <em>&#8220;it&#8217;s gonna get you in trouble. People care about you as a person and they respect what you&#8217;ve accomplished, but no body cares about your honor except you   . . . not even me!&#8221;</em></p>
<p><strong>So, yes, I am the son of a wise mother.</strong></p>
<p><strong>As a management consultant</strong> and entrepreneur coach for many years, I&#8217;ve seen my share of business and life failures. Research studies always point parental fingers to &#8220;being under-capitalized&#8221; as symptomatic of poor management and the key reason for business failure.</p>
<p><strong>But rarely</strong> does anyone look beyond &#8220;poor management&#8221; being the ultimate culprit to see what else is lurking in the shadows . . . what else is there to account for business and life failures?</p>
<p><strong>Someone should be looking. Why?</strong></p>
<blockquote>
<h2><span style="color: #800000;"><em>Because at the end of this fraying personal and business lifeline is a very heavy anchor that is best categorized as self-pride. It&#8217;s something that happens when you choose to get sidetracked from your business and life pursuits, to deal with some imagined threat to your ego.</em></span></h2>
</blockquote>
<p><strong>You put day-to-day operations</strong> off to the side to entangle yourself in a legal suit that you know you&#8217;re right about just to gloat in satisfaction at having humiliated an annoying competitor, or to realize a thousand dollars payoff after legal expenses.</p>
<p><strong>How much business is lost</strong> in the process of your ego-indulging diversions?</p>
<p><strong>The minute the sidetracking starts</strong>, it has a tendency (like <em>An object in motion tends to stay in motion</em>) to snowball itself into an avalanche. And it doesn&#8217;t take long (sometimes just minutes!) to get to the point of completely immobilizing growth and survival modes.</p>
<p><strong>In minor role applications</strong>, the sidetracking diverts needed attention from goal pursuits, family well-being, and from business and career opportunities and success.</p>
<blockquote>
<h2><span style="color: #800000;"><em><strong>Turning your spotlight</strong> inward takes the focus away from where you&#8217;re headed, and when it gets dark &#8212; you&#8217;re bound to trip over or run into some thing. You may or may not get up, or be able to.</em></span></h2>
</blockquote>
<p><strong>In major role applications</strong> of this sidetracking, businesses go bankrupt, couples get divorced, children get abandoned, and some people can end up depressed enough to be taking their own lives as their failures become more pronounced.</p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">What to do? </span></h2>
<p><strong>There&#8217;s always choice</strong> involved. Turn the other cheek! Why not? Is letting go so hard when you consider the consequences of holding on?</p>
<p><strong>When you choose</strong> to feel insulted (you&#8217;ll know when you feel your face flush or knees wobble or stomach churn or head ache or fists clench), you need choose to stop where you are and stop whatever you&#8217;re doing.</p>
<p><strong>Force yourself</strong> to take some (at least 3 or 4) really deep breaths, while saying to yourself with each inhale, &#8220;Healing energy into my body!&#8221; and with each exhale, &#8220;Stress and tension out of my body!&#8221; Remind yourself again that your behavior is your choice!</p>
<p><strong>You can choose</strong> to escalate a situation or simply back away from it because it gets in the way of your success (and presumably because you prefer success to getting sidetracked). Getting (choosing to be) sidetracked is simply an admission that you have chosen for someone <em>else</em> to get inside your brain and control your behavior.</p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Don&#8217;t choose your self-pride over your self!</span></h2>
<p> </p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.twwsells.com/"><span style="color: #0000ff;">www.TWWsells.com</span></a> or 302.933.0116 or <a href="mailto:Hal@TheWriterWorks.com"><span style="color: #0000ff;">Hal@BusinessWorks.US</span></a>  </p>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You.</span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"> <em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone!</span></h5>
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		<title>ADVERTISING NO-NO&#8217;s</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Aug 2010 00:19:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Hal Alpiar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Nine &#8220;Do Not&#8221; lessons 
                                          
learned from 30+ years 
                                                
of sales-winning advertising
                                                                                                                                             

I know, accenting the negative isn&#8217;t always the best thing, but if you know what NOT to do, it&#8217;s a lot easier to figure out what you can and should do. I don&#8217;t pretend to know what you can and should do, but I sure [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Nine &#8220;Do Not&#8221; lessons </span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                          </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">learned from 30+ years </span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                                </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">of sales-winning advertising</span></h1>
<h2>                                                                                                                                             </h2>
<blockquote>
<h3><em>I know, accenting the negative isn&#8217;t always the best thing, but if you know what NOT to do, it&#8217;s a lot easier to figure out what you can and should do. I don&#8217;t pretend to know what you can and should do, but I sure can tell you what I&#8217;ve found out that doesn&#8217;t work (and throw in a few hints about stuff I know that works better!). </em></h3>
<h3><em>Here&#8217;s the scoop:</em></h3>
</blockquote>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><strong><span style="color: #800000;">1. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Do NOT advertise</span></span> </strong>that you have integrity, or even about what wonderful integrity-inspiring things you or your business have done. When you conduct business at all levels with a high-trust approach and attitude, you will gain or boost a reputation for integrity that speaks for itself!</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><strong><span style="color: #800000;">2. (&#8230;<span style="text-decoration: underline;">and this is really #1</span>):</span> </strong>Here is the single most difficult marketing, advertising, sales and PR challenge to face for all businesses everywhere (yes, you did indeed read that right: &#8220;all businesses everywhere&#8221;)&#8211; ready for this? &#8212; Do NOT promote how great you are to the rest of the world. Nobody cares. Well, maybe your mother cares, but nobody else does.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><strong><span style="color: #800000;">3. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Do NOT get</span></span> </strong>too cutesy. Readability must come before cleverness in font (lettering) use and treatments (Italics, boldfacing, spacing, underlining, shadowing, using a horseshoe for the letter &#8220;U&#8221; or crossed swords for &#8220;X&#8221; or an egg for &#8220;O&#8221;&#8230;etc.). And don&#8217;t trust a designer to worry about readability; most have no training or experience in how to design with and around text, especially branding lines.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><strong><span style="color: #800000;">4. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Do NOT emphasize</span></span> </strong>product and service <em>features</em>. Nobody buys features. <em>People buy benefits</em>. Make sure your marketing, advertising, sales, promotion and PR efforts focus on benefits &#8212; on answering the question, what&#8217;s in it for me?</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>5. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Do NOT buy into</span></strong></span> fancy dog and pony presentations that stress how the work a creative service provider individual or organization or group or team can do for you will put you head and shoulders above the rest of your industry or profession. Get rid of creative service providers who seem more interested in winning awards for themselves than in making sales for you. Use performance incentives.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><strong><span style="color: #800000;">6. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Do NOT ever accept</span></span> </strong>a media rate that&#8217;s printed on a &#8220;rate card&#8221; or &#8220;rate sheet.&#8221; Think of it as the asking price for a house just put on the market this morning. Media people who aren&#8217;t willing to work with your budget aren&#8217;t worth your time and consideration. There are always other ways to market your business.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>7. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Do NOT try</span> </strong></span>to hand-off advertising/marketing/PR responsibilities to someone who works with you because they articulate well or can write a mean email. And don&#8217;t try to do it yourself unless it&#8217;s what you specialize in. Remember that there are two success keys involved: writing skill and psychology expertise. Persuading customer and prospect brains is what it&#8217;s all about. </p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><strong><span style="color: #800000;">8. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Do NOT communicate</span></span> </strong>too little or too much. Ask prospects and customers what they think the right amount of information is. Have someone who&#8217;s experienced at it run a focus group for you to get these answers, and to test alternative marketing approaches. 7 target market representatives for an hour works for this purpose. Give each a $20-$25 value reward for their participation.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><span style="color: #800000;"><strong>9. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Do NOT &#8220;settle</span>&#8221; </strong><span style="color: #000000;">for</span> </span>ads, commercials, websites, landing pages, blogs, brochures, news releases, or social media executions or strategies that don&#8217;t <em>feel</em> right! If you don&#8217;t feel sure about something, remember it&#8217;s your business. Your gut instinct is your best decision maker.   </p>
<h6 style="padding-left: 30px;">                                                                   </h6>
<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.twwsells.com/"><span style="color: #0000ff;">www.TWWsells.com</span></a> or 302.933.0116 or <a href="mailto:Hal@TheWriterWorks.com"><span style="color: #0000ff;">Hal@BusinessWorks.US</span></a>  </p>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You.</span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"> <em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone!</span></h5>
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		<title>ENTREPRENEURS STAY FOCUSED</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Aug 2010 00:33:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Hal Alpiar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Keep your eye on the ball!&#8221;
                                                   
It&#8217;s what good coaches tell 
every batter and entrepreneur!
                                                 
Concentrating hard on everything that&#8217;s right in front of you as much of the time as possible is a tall order for every ballplayer and every business owner. 
It is a physically, mentally, and emotionally draining pursuit, yet focus has proven time [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">&#8220;Keep your eye on the ball!&#8221;</span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                                   </span></h6>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">It&#8217;s what good coaches tell </span></h2>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">every batter and entrepreneur!</span></h2>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                                 </span></h6>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Concentrating hard on everything that&#8217;s right in front of you as much of the time as possible</strong> is a tall order for every ballplayer and every business owner. </span></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>It is a physically, mentally, and emotionally draining pursuit</strong>, yet focus has proven time and again to be the single most important quality to possess (beyond having a burning desire), in achieving big-time success. </span></p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Of course, having a burning desire is the motivational fuel that usually accounts for having a sharp focus to begin with.</span></h2>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                                   </span></h6>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>In other words</strong>, if you truly want to win the game more than anything else in the world, you will undoubtedly make outstanding plays and you will get hits no matter how great the pitcher is. Whether or not others on your team are as committed &#8212; and if those commitments outweigh the opposing team commitments &#8212; will determine if your team wins. </span></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>When you have your own business</strong>, your &#8220;team&#8221; is your staff of employees. If you lead they will follow. Hmm, heard that before, huh? But it&#8217;s true. The hitch is in the words, &#8220;if you lead&#8221; because saying one thing and doing another doesn&#8217;t cut it for leadership. And we all know how far the screaming Little League coach gets with impressionable young players.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Then there&#8217;s the other team you&#8217;re up against</strong> &#8212; the competition. And herein lies the one-way, downward chute into oblivion for too many high-spirited entrepreneurs: gearing themselves and their energy and their businesses to the competition. They need instead to gear themselves, their energy and their businesses to the market they target and the marketplaces they&#8217;re in. </span></p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Everything else is an ego-based, self-aggrandizing waste of time, money and energy.</span></h2>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                                               </span></h6>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Even one-one-one competitors</strong> &#8212; boxers, tennis players, swimmers cannot enter the arena focused on the competitor and expect to win. Yes, they need to review competitive strengths and weaknesses, and they certainly need to have a fix on the ring, court, pool they&#8217;ll be competing in. There&#8217;s no discounting the importance of these awarenesses.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>But FOCUS has to be on what&#8217;s INside</strong>, on gathering personal strength and drive, on desire, on gumption, spunk and determination. When business owners and entrepreneurial leaders can bring that spark mto work every day and nurture the spark they see in others, they will find it very difficult to fail.</span></p>
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<h2 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="color: #800000;">We&#8217;ve all read and heard that stuff on calendars and posters and Tweets and the bottoms of emails . . . all the warnings and words of encouragement and lectures and reassurances, and what does it all mean?</span> </span></h2>
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<h6 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;">                                                                                                                                     </span></h6>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>The bottom line</strong> seems to be that if you can&#8217;t feel the courage for focusing on success somewhere deep down in your gut, and if you can&#8217;t know in your heart that you can and will make a difference in this life, maybe you should reassess what you&#8217;re doing and not be absorbing all that stress. Because halfway efforts produce halfway results and halfway results produce stress. And stress kills.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Winning in sports and winning in business</strong> is never easy because &#8212; in the end &#8212; keeping focused means that you are<em> really </em>only competing against your SELF!                                                     </span></p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.twwsells.com/"><span style="color: #0000ff;">www.TWWsells.com</span></a><span style="color: #0000ff;"> </span>or 302.933.0116 or <a href="mailto:Hal@TheWriterWorks.com"><span style="color: #0000ff;">Hal@BusinessWorks.US</span></a>  </p>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You.</span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"> <em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></h5>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone!</span></h5>
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		<title>Should You Write A Book?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 14 Aug 2010 20:33:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Hal Alpiar</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Business or Personal, one small story or a lifetime . . .
&#8220;You should write  
                                          
a book about that!&#8221;
                                                                                                              
Probably everyone has heard this suggestion at one time or another. Most, however, shrug it off or dismiss it without serious thought.
Some simply don&#8217;t think that what they have to say is book-worthy. Others don&#8217;t think they have [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em><span style="color: #0000ff;">Business or Personal, one small story or a lifetime . . .</span></em></p>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">&#8220;You should write  </span></h1>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">                                          </span></h6>
<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">a book about that!&#8221;</span></h1>
<h2>                                                                                                              </h2>
<p><strong>Probably everyone has heard this suggestion at one time or another</strong>. Most, however, shrug it off or dismiss it without serious thought.</p>
<p><strong>Some </strong>simply don&#8217;t think that what they have to say is book-worthy. Others don&#8217;t think they have the time or wherewithal to pull it off. Still others just don&#8217;t know where to start or how to get good guidance without getting ripped off. A few start and quit.</p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">If you have a story that can hold </span></h2>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">people&#8217;s attention, </span><span style="color: #800000;">you can write a book.</span></h2>
<h6>                                                                                 </h6>
<p><strong>If you or your business</strong> has experienced some unusual or inspiring or outstanding pattern or event that prompts tears or laughter, or provokes serious head-nodding or grins of satisfaction, or that serves as a strong example of what to do or not do (failures, remember, teach success), you probably have the makings of a book.</p>
<p><strong>What kind of book?</strong> Whatever kind suits your fancy.</p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Books, contrary to popular electronics </span></h2>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">industry hype, are <em>not</em> dying.</span></h2>
<h6>                                                                                         </h6>
<p><strong>Electronic readers are, in fact</strong>, most likely to cause an <em>increase</em> in book writing, publishing, and sales as they continue to come down in price. Kindles (now $139) and the like are becoming the new cell phone for a generation that&#8217;s now finding its way back to storytelling with this extended form of social media.  </p>
<p><strong>A full-length, hard cover or paperback book</strong> serves an important archival value for many, and can serve to spike credibility to new levels of industry or professional acceptance . . . regardless of whether it ever gets on bookseller shelves and earns you a royalty.</p>
<p><strong>A downloadable ebook</strong> can have enormous promotional value for your website and social media stardom.</p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Bottom line: A book is a book is a book.</span></h2>
<h6>                                                                                   </h6>
<p><strong>Can just <em>anyone</em> help you?</strong> No. Simply because an individual has written or published a book does not make that person an expert, especially if you are considering some full-length story treatment, and even more especially if business is the subject or a key subject.</p>
<p><strong>It takes considerable writing and storytelling skill</strong> to help someone pull a draft together. It takes editing expertise to make the draft work. It takes business experience and know-how for a book-writing consultant to be able to help create a business-based book. </p>
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<h2><span style="color: #800000;"><em>But securing the kind of writing/editing and publishing help that&#8217;s right for you, and the story you have in you, doesn&#8217;t have to cost you an arm and a leg. It depends entirely on what you&#8217;re looking to accomplish, and how willing you are to commit yourself to the task. </em></span></h2>
</blockquote>
<p><strong>The best place to start </strong>is <em>not </em>with a title and dedication page. Start with putting ideas for pieces of your story on index cards or pieces of scrap paper you can shuffle around a tabletop when you have a dozen or so.</p>
<p><strong>Next, organize the individual thoughts</strong> into some kind of order or plan or outline or list, then consolidate those that seem to fit or work together or play off one another. This is a good point to start poking around for some experienced guidance on productive ways to put your puzzle pieces together, and to help you keep focused and on target with your message. </p>
<p><strong>Need an informed, honest book idea opinion that&#8217;s FREE to my blog visitors?</strong> Try me. I just finished writing my 6th book, hold major writing awards, offer 35 years of business experience, and yes, I am approachable. (See phone and email below) </p>
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<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Thanks for visiting. Go for your goals! God Bless You. God Bless America.</span></h5>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #0000ff;"><em>“The price of freedom is eternal vigilance!”</em> [Thomas Jefferson] </span></p>
<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">Make today a GREAT day for someone!</span></h5>
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